Moving Mom Monday: Moving Elderly Parents Into Your Home

In her article Moving Elderly Parents Into Your Home, author Mard Naman writes about the ten factors to consider before moving elderly parents in:

1. What kind of care will the person need?

What is the person’s physical and mental condition and what chronic illness does he or she have? These are the first questions you need to answer.

If he’s still relatively healthy and independent, this may be the ideal time to move him in. He can become accustomed to his new surroundings and will initially require little care from you or other family members. Your kids will get to know him while he’s still healthy.

2. How much assistance and supervision can you provide?

Caring for an aging relative is a great way to give back some of the love, care, and nurturing he gave to you.

– Be realistic about what you can and can’t do. Realize, too, that the level of assistance needed will most likely increase over time.

– Know your limits. If the person needs help with bathing, dressing, or going to the bathroom, are you comfortable helping? If he’s incontinent and the idea of changing a diaper makes you uncomfortable, you may need to find an in-home aide. On the other hand, maybe he’s just becoming more forgetful, and you’re really good at organizing his medications and helping him make sure to take them. Or perhaps you’re good at paperwork and can cut through red tape and help with his Medicare or health insurance forms.

– Consider your schedule. If you have a full-time job and young kids at home, consider the impact of taking in someone who needs a lot of assistance. If, for example, he needs help getting to the bathroom several times every night, you could soon be suffering from a major case of sleep deprivation. You may be reacting to a health crisis he has recently had, or thinking about the move as a preventive measure because he’s slowly losing the ability to take care of himself. In either case, think about whether you have the time and energy to take this on.

3. How well do you get along?

Look at the history of your relationship with your family member. If you enjoy each other’s company and can successfully resolve your differences, that’s a real plus. That doesn’t mean you can never argue or you have to be best friends.

4. Is your home older-adult-friendly, and if not, can you make it so?

Ideally, place an older adult on the first floor so he doesn’t have to climb any stairs. If that’s impossible, and he can’t handle stairs, you can consider putting in an automatic stair lift. For sources, search online for electric stair lifts.”

Read the rest of Moving Elderly Parents Into Your Home.

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